By Joshua Elijah Benavides:
People rarely notice just how much of their energy is being zapped, every single day, by this one, often overlooked, habit. This dynamic can happen in such a stealthy manner that we often don’t even notice it’s happening.
I know, because it’s happened to me sooooo many times.
What is this insidious, hidden source of exhaustion that zaps your creativity, mood, and flow?
Judging yourself, others, and life. Judging and comparing. Judging and evaluating. Judging – good, bad, like, dislike. Judging – should, shouldn’t, enough, not enough.
A swarm of judgmental thoughts can invade our consciousness in seconds.
And when you latch on to any of them, you drain your own energy because:
– it’s not productive
– it’s not creative
– it keeps you spinning in place.
This “spinning in place” happens when we identify with a thought that we simultaneously resist.
We think a thought.
Then, within seconds, we judge it and feel we shouldn’t think such thoughts.
Then, we resist it, thinking that by doing so it might make it go away.
But it doesn’t. In fact, it just grows and grows and grows for as long as you’re resisting it.
Resistance takes energy. (Read that again a couple times just to let that sink in).
When we’re resisting our own thoughts, we have our foot firmly on the brakes while simultaneously trying to move forward. This creates that all-too-common experience of feeling stuck. Now, I want to point out that the resistance came AFTER we judged the thought, not before. And yes, that judgement tends to happen in a split second!
But here’s what’s important to explore:
Without the initial judgement of the thought as good or bad, wanted or unwanted etc, what would there be to resist?
If you didn’t cling to any position or opinion about your experience, what would happen?
What if, instead of judging what arises within you, you welcomed it in?
What if, instead of continuing the resistance while trying to think your way back to a more positive state of mind, you met whatever was arising within you with curiosity and wonder?
Something as simple as: “Wow…look at what’s arising within me now. I wonder what happens if I don’t hold on to it or try to get rid of it, if I just welcome it and let it move through me?”
And then, just be with that experience. Here’s what I’m sure you’ll find (because I have found it every time as well as all my clients)… Whatever that thought was… It passes through you like clouds.
The clouds of your thinking continue to float along because you didn’t stop to unpack, analyze, process, judge, etc.
You simply let it flow through you. And lo and behold, as they pass, the warm rays of the Sun (your Essence) come streaming in.
Suddenly, you feel lit again. Suddenly, you’re in flow, turned on, tuned in and available to whatever is wanting to move through you in that moment. Don’t take my word for it. Try it out next time you’re sitting in front of your computer feeling sorry for yourself and your life, wallowing in judgement without even realizing that this is what you’re doing.
Of course, you’ve got to wake up to it first. You’ve got to wake up to the fact that your feelings are an alarm system, signaling you to notice that you’re believing and identifying with thoughts that are actually out of alignment with your True, Limitless and Divine Nature.
So first, catch yourself in the act. Then, try this out. Welcome it. Let it flow.
And watch as an inexhaustible, creative and productive energy wells up within you!
Sending love and many blessings!
Transformative Life Coach | Functoinal Nutritionist (in training) | Yoga Teacher | (trauma-sensitive) Mindfulness Facilitator
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